Please help me with this question?

Its me again..lol- Ok im going through this horrible break up after 3 years of an outta control abusive relationship, to sum it up its been 4 months sense he broke it off with me stating we are just not compatible and he loves me so much and sees hes hurting me so he must let go??? I believe when in love your suppose to rock it out through thick and thin as i did when he hurt me. I never left his said. Why is so easily able to leave mine? He wont talk, tex or call me or even respond. Is he really done. Im doing all the necary steps to move on, college, modeling, books, friends, therapy everythingggg - Nothing is working, and to top it off even when i dream he's STILL in my head. I cant win, when im up hes on my mind and when im sleepin his in my mind ..wtf?? Also his uncle and grandfather have been calling me alot saying how am I , and if we are back yet and that theyve seen him around, he isnt working, same old routine he had when i left him, etc. Do you think he found a new women? If so will he hurt her too eventually. Or maybe he will come back? He told me to just go back in time as if we never met and remeber myself then and move on!! Im so hurt. He was the one who was obssessed with me in the relationship. Why is this sooooooo ez for him